There is no such thing as a baby. There is a baby and someone.
Donald Winnicott
Being with a baby might awaken deep feelings that you often aren’t ready for. Feelings that can surprise you; some can reassure you that you are on the right path, others that might frighten or confuse you. Society leads us to believe that there will be countless moments of peaceful gazing between parent and child; when in reality these moments are only fleeting, you might internalize that something is wrong with you.
There might be times when you are with your children and moments from your past, often uninvited seem to take up space. You might find yourself reacting to your child in ways that feel out of control, potentially in ways that felt scary as a child yourself. We aren’t prepared for these experiences, we don’t talk about these moments with friends or family or in play groups!
We often long to be the parents we never had, but how do we provide what we didn’t receive? When you notice these longings, fears and joys they are an invitation to dig deeper. My hope is through our work together, you will be able to uncover what is already inside you, allow it to guide you and be more open to learn all your child has to teach you.
therapeutic services
individual therapy
Becoming a parent can bring hope for the future and a chance to do things differently. It can feel so defeating if you find yourself repeating old patterns with your child or partner, and feeling powerless to change them or respond differently. You might experience feelings of loneliness, sadness, new or heightened overwhelming nervousness or worries that feel out of your control to quiet. I have over a decade in providing psychotherapy to parents, creating space for their internal experience and supporting them as they learn to trust themselves and build healthy relationships with their children that they have always dreamed.
parent child therapy
Sometimes your child might act in ways that feel confusing or overwhelming. You might find yourself reacting more in anger than you’d like, or you hear your own parent’s voice coming out of your mouth! Wanting to parent differently than you were parented is the first step, I can support you in figuring out what is next! Let’s talk further what relationship focused work looks like and how I can support you and your child in building a stronger, more secure relationship.
circle of security™
Meeting your child’s needs is often overwhelming, and rarely do you get any signs that you’re doing it right! Sometimes you might not even be sure where to begin or how to figure out what your child needs or wants from you. I believe that parents are doing the best they can with what they know, but even still parents feel lost or confused on how to build a healthy relationship with their child or children. As a trained parent facilitator in Circle of Security™, we can decipher your child’s signals together so that you feel more empowered as a parent and have a stronger and more secure relationship with your child. Offered during individual therapy sessions or in a group setting, please call for availability and what setting would be the best fit for you.